Match Making Tips for Match Makers

While most of us want our friends and loved ones to at least like each other, some of us like to take it a step further and “fix up” our friends with each other. While some people abhor blind dates, many of our friends will put up with our match making efforts just to appease us. While most of us would like to think that we have come up with a match made in heaven, often, just the opposite happens and the results can sometimes be disastrous.

I’ve witnessed firsthand people match making one friend with another simply because they love both their friends and want them to love each other as well. However, this scenario doesn’t always work out, often because the two friends who are part of the match making process have little or nothing in common, except for their mutual friend.

People who are thrown together in a match making environment tend to avoid each other if the match doesn’t turn out to be a winner. Not only do they not end up being romantically involved but they avoid each other to the extent that often, neither one will show up at the next gathering you throw simply because they don’t want to run into one another. Then, they may start to avoid you because they don’t want to hurt your feelings or go through that experience again with someone else. Match making can be a dangerous game indeed.

The next time you are thinking one of your friends or relatives would be perfect for another friend you might consider inviting both parties to your next gathering without any match making tricks at all. If the two people find each other attractive, you can bet they will “hook up.” If not, nothing is lost and you don’t have two people you care about feeling funny or making up excuses the next time you call. At least if they don’t find each other attractive, they will still make polite conversation and you can avoid a great deal of embarrassment and potential hurt feelings.

Some people just like the art of match making and they are usually the ones that are constantly fixing their friends up with blind dates. While there’s nothing inherently wrong with match making, you can accomplish a lot more if you take the subtle approach and invite the two people you are intent on match making to be part of a larger group. That way, no one feels pressured, and you never know, it may turn out to be a match made in heaven!

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